Face it, we’re all losing our trust in Facebook. Okay, it’s entirely gone. However, you can make some modifications so you can keep your profile. #DeleteFacebook is an option; but like me, you might have some groups you use for updates.
I’ve found in facebookian culture that there are times where users really don’t want 564 friends to see a status about a particularly exciting event or even a sad one but that perhaps sometimes there might be say 53 or possibly even 5 people that they want to see their post without using a group E-mail – because even in facebook that can be annoying. While this post may seem long I’m going to give the exact steps to garner a little tighter control on what you post on facebook. Before you get to the creation of your list/s I have a suggestion on how to keep it down to 3 groups.
First, you need to think about your inner sanctum of information like a circle with 3 repeating rings. The inner sanctum is your circle of trust. They are the ones that you won’t mind sharing some of life’s major catastrophic events, joyous outbursts, photos that you don’t want the world to see, special messages calling out ones you love and any number of other things. The 2nd ring is the ones that while you may not want to share special moments there are things such as work events, general photos re-shared for comical use, news about professional organizations, etc., that you will create–we can call this list work or professional. The final list is friends who can see a few details, some very seldom posts, general information, things you might want to push for attendance, etc.
Name the group something that gives you a hint about what you are posting. Sometimes you do not need a 3rd list because in my case this is the “friend” list. Those are users I’ve added as friends as a courtesy but do not want them seeing my life on display. You do NOT want to post public images or status posts unless you, like me, sometimes like to share something so informative or interesting you just want the world to know so, in that case, Public Post away! So think about your group or groups before you proceed – think about how your posts could be subdivided…maybe you just want two groups “Circle of Trust” and “friends”. Either way, if you create 3 lists remember that you can add more than one group to photographs. Not only that but from this point forward each time you add a new friend you will be able to add them to the group at the same time.
So here we go:
On the facebook main page where you see the regular news feed, there are several sections listed on the left side: Favorites, Apps, Groups, Pages, Interests, More or Friends at the bottom. If you don’t see Friends, then click the More word and Friends will show up.
What we’re concerned with is the Friends group because this is where you are going to create your 1 or more groups. Roll your mouse over the word Friends and you will see “More” pop up. Click more and the news feed now changes to show you the few groups that come default with facebook. The only one you really care about is Close Friends – that’s the group that every time one of them posts you get some sort of indication in your news feed or mobile device. Just remember that for later. We’ll come back to it.
Next to Friends you’ll see two boxes: + Create List and See All Friends. Click + Create List
Type in the list name of your first group – whichever group that you trust the most with your private information is the group you should start with because you might get lazy and not ever get around to creating the 2nd circle and finally the 3rd, which is the people like workmates.
Once you type in the List Name you could actually start typing in names but that would take forever and sure enough, you will forget someone who won’t appreciate your hidden posts so just click create for now–there is an easier way to add everyone quickly.
After you click Create you can see the title of your list at the top and a place to post a status but you don’t need that right now. On the right side of the screen, it says “Manage List”. Click that box and then click edit list. Here is where you need to select your regular facebook “friends” to put them on the list. At first, you see “No results” because it’s only showing you the new list with no friends.
Click “On This List” box and change it to “friends”. Now you see everyone. Now all you need to do is go through your entire list, very easily, and choose which friends you want to be added to this group. When you are done click finish.
It may be wise to have thought about your groupings beforehand before you proceed because you want to just add each group when you go through the next steps.
Now using the list is entirely up to your preferences. I prefer that all my default posts are only seen by my inner circle – or rather, that first layer of trust. That’s not everyone who may be my “friend” on facebook–otherwise, there would be way too many people who know way too much about me. So, to do that you should click the tiny settings icon in the upper right-hand corner of the facebook page.
A menu comes up, click “Privacy Settings”. See where it says, “Who can see my stuff? Who can see your future posts?” I would change that to whatever you just named your first group. Just click “Edit” and then a box will pop up, now choose your new list.
There are other settings in privacy where you can do this. It’s not just limited to status posts, but birthdays, addresses, phone numbers, where you work etc by going into “Timeline and Tagging” as well as using the “About” link which you find on your own timeline page under your profile photo.
Click “About” and then look inside each box, you can click “Edit” and change who sees what. After you clicked the edit you will see a little icon that you can change to your new list(s). Sometimes, especially with photos, you can use two lists if say for example your work friends and your circle of trust needs to see something you just posted or an album so in that case, you’d just click both lists.
Now here’s the best part: you can check your new privacy settings by going to your timeline and using the “View As” tool. It’s over there on the far right next to activity log. Click the down arrow and “View As…”. What comes up is a page that shows you how your timeline looks to the general public.
Surprised? I hope not. Now use the “View as a Specific Person” to test some names that you know you dropped in different lists. One person who is only a friend and then other people who are in your circle of trust list. The page changes each time you put a name in to let you know you’ve done something right.
Finally, remember that mobile phones are notorious for following the last post privacy. Meaning, if you change your cover or profile photo which is mostly public then the next post you might have as public. On your mobile phone, you can ALWAYS change the setting of what you are posting. Taking a few moments to make sure where the post is going takes about just as much effort as it did to correct the spelling mistake on that last post. It’s worth a 2nd look. For the Android Facebook app it’s a little icon that you touch to bring up your new groups. Facebook wants you to post everything public because it keeps users interacting, ads popping and paying plus applications that inevitably mean cash for someone- but your privacy is also important as facts about you (found in facebook) can always be used for illicit purposes and once you surpass 300 or even 1000 friends there are just some facts that many people don’t need about you.
There is a great article about how social networks are used for identify theft here: How Social Media Networks Facilitate Identity Theft and Fraud
Yes – when is the last time you used your mother’s maiden name, dog name, child’s name etc for a password to a banking site?
And here is another: AARP: Restrict your personal information or your risk of identity theft may double Serious business! Also, once you add a new profile photo you can always go back in and change that privacy setting. It’s just good common sense.
Now for the Close Friends group – if you look who is in the group you’ll see their little gold star – you also see that if you look directly on their timeline.
If Close Friends is checked that means you’ll get notifications. You can change this how you see fit but the creation of these groups will not change the fact that you may still get notifications from others on your friend’s list. Just start reviewing who’s in your news feed and begin to visit their timeline to uncheck “Close Friends” OR “Show in News Feed” OR “Get Notifications”. Eventually, your news feed starts showing the things or people you want to pay attention too.
Use the following links to make more changes:
Finally, go to your timeline, then photos, then albums and make the necessary changes there to hide photos.
I hope this helps!!